Freedom to be…

Story Time…..

A young man happens to like a girl who he wants to pursue. He expressed himself to her on the last day of school, just before the weekend, and he finds that his feelings are reciprocated (affirmed) from this girl that he likes. He now feels seen… accepted…validated.

Naturally, this feels good to him. And when he’s by himself, he reflects on this good feeling. He embraces it. He flows with it through his daily life. He naturally embraces his interactions with those closest to him. And in his alone time with himself, he is naturally himself.

He feels highly elated, joyful, playful, and light in his energy; and because he is, the world and the atmosphere around him reflects this feeling back unto him.

What the young man did not realize was that him feeling good about himself and feeling light in his energy, lead him automatically to align and calibrate to a space within himself that is organic, true, and authentic at his core. Although he is not consciously aware of the shift that has occurred within him, he is subconsciously and naturally riding the wave of this true feeling.

Some time has passed. The weekend is coming to a close, and he is now mentally preparing to go back to school and face new interaction with this girl that he likes, which has been mutually affirmed. But now another shift within him is taking place. The young man begins to play scenarios of interaction between him and the girl within his head. He imagines a role that he will play in his dealings with her. A persona identity that he’ll take with her in order to continuously be accepted, liked, desirable, all while appearing detached and unbothered to her.

He then feels a fleeting moment of separation, where he recognizes himself as feeling free all weekend whilst just ‘authentically being’, and then recognizes that he is now choosing to wear a mask when faced with interaction with this girl.

A moment of fear occurs within him, and as the young man reflects on his true nature, he judges himself for little quirks of his that may be deemed unworthy or ostracizing, in ‘the eyes of the world.’ He feels convinced that the authentic him would not be fully accepted by her, especially because he has now realized that he has been wearing this persona mask with not just her… but out in the world, in general. And if the mask is what he has been wearing all along, then it must be the mask that she already likes and will accept…not the him, that he has felt and been all weekend.

This is a story and a path that all humans walk, have walked, or walk still within their daily lives.

How many of us have been so unaware of where we are wearing a mask, playing a persona, or fulfilling a role?

How many of us have been convinced through fear programmings and ostracizing that it is unsafe to encompass the fullness of who we truly are at our core?

How many of us have been afraid to shine the brightness of what lies underneath the layers of mask that we put on to navigate our jobs? Our relationships? Our interactions? And the world?

How many of us are just wanting to be seen, accepted, or validated in some facet of our lives, that we are willing to be something that we are not just to feel so?

Where in your life are you not showing up authentically as your organic core essence? Not a carbon copy of who you think you are.

Where in your life are you seeking or desiring to be seen or affirmed, that you dim aspects of yourself just to appease the mold?

Where in your life do you mentally loop scenarios and show up as something that you are not, before you even begin?

Just like the young man, it took him a moment to see that he was wearing a mask in his daily life, and not just in his interactions with the girl that he liked. It took him a moment to see that he was training himself to be someone that he is not.

Whether it be a familial role, a societal role, a relationship role, a leader role, a cultural role, an internet role, a job role etc……show up authentically “as you.”

I leave you all with a short letter:

Be Yourself Truly.

100% in your full expression.

You need not perform. You need not Hide. You need not be anything that you are not.

You do not need the world’s acceptance nor validation.

And even if it gives it,

You need not cater to its whims or perceived acceptance or energy.

Be Authentically You,

At All Times.

In All Moments.

Free in your expression.

You need not wear a mask in the world any longer,

Whilst being free in your lonesome.

Be Free As You Are,

Always.

~ The Remi Gate